You’re standing in your closet, staring at the jumbled mass of clothing called your wardrobe.
Running late, you grab the same old pants and top, throw them on, and leave the house feeling less than inspired about you how you look.
Yes, technically you’re “dressed,” but words like confident, pulled together, and stylish do NOT come to mind when you think about how you’re dressed.
Let’s face it,…not the ideal way to start your day, is it?
What if you could spend 5 MINUTES in your closet, #justgetdressed, and walk out into your day looking and feeling your best. Then you can STOP thinking about what you’re wearing, and instead focus on the important things in your life.
Maybe you’ll be more productive? Be in a better mood? Show up with more confidence?
My goal at B.Styled is to help you build a great wardrobe that expresses YOUR style and supports YOUR life. And when you #justgetdressed, it has a positive ripple effect on other areas of your life.
See the video below for 3 Steps to take to help you get dressed looking and feeling your personal best — in less than 5 minutes:
This must be the biggest year yet for hype surrounding the Nordstrom Anniversary Sale. If you’re new to this crazy phenomena…here’s a live video I made on the eve of Early Access for the sale. In a nutshell, yes, it’s a special sale, there are great deals to be had on BRAND NEW styles, but you need to keep you wits about you;)
That said, this sale is a great time to save if you’ve been thinking of investing in a pair of premium denim jeans. I’ve been lusting after a pair of (soon to be named) jeans, so when they popped up on the Early Access Sale (#NSALE), I decided to splurge. I figured I’d try them and if they didn’t live up to all the hype, I’d just return them; no harm no foul. Let me be clear….. these jeans are normally insanely expensive, and on the #NSALE they are only ridiculously expensive. But in the interest of Market Research (and free returns) I clicked BUY (I even ordered 2 sizes to make sure I got it right).
I got my first #NSALE shipment today, including the jeans. I tried them on with my favorite, basic white t-shirt (also on the sale and I ordered another one since I am so rough on them).
As soon as I put the jeans on, yes, I LOVED them, but something felt strangely….familiar. I went to my closet, and found a pair of budget-friendly jeans I own, tried them on, and decided to take side-by-side comparison photos.
The only thing I changed was my jewelry….gold vs. silver, just so I could keep the pictures straight.
So, you’re dying to know which jean is the spend and which is the splurge, right? Well just to complicate things, I ask my unsuspecting, work-from-home husband to look at them both in person and decide which was which. He, of all people, nailed it, noticing a clear difference, and thought the splurge pair looked considerably better. Go figure.
Both pairs are very stretchy and comfortable and with a slightly higher waist. However…
I admit I do really LOVE the AG’s and there are some features that make them stand out to me.
They have the on-trend raw hem, but if I get sick of that I can cuff them.
I love the color of the wash…it’s the perfect shade of denim for me…not too light, not too dark. They could be worn very casually with flops or wedges, or dressed up with heeled booties. The difference in color and fading is more obvious in person than in the pics. My husband noticed it immediately.
I admit I really love the small distressed detail at the hip. I’ve tried more distressed jeans but just don’t feel like myself in them, although I love how they look on others. These have just enough to make to me happy and feel slightly cool (which I’m not).
Another thing my husband noticed (being a man) is the rear view. I think AG has pocket placement down –making for more flattering hiney on the AG’s.
I’m going to hold on to them for now, and decide in September whether to keep them or send them back. They are available to order on sale now, but with a backorder date of November, which is a drag. But, if you think you want them, best to get them at the sale price and wait to receive them (you can always change your mind).
Here are some of the other #NSALE items I received this week. Unfortunately sizes are limited on some of them, but there’s a good chance of restocking on Friday July 21st when the sale is open to the public – and when all the Early Access returns start coming in. Here’s a link to my complete catalog of picks.
My Verdict and Links:
Leith Circle Cardi – Got it last year in charcoal – love that one. This new version is cut differently (slightly so) . I like it a lot but don’t love it as much. Update: Going to hold out for the barefoot dreams circle cardigan in cream and hope that comes back in stock. This one going back…
Caslon Hooded Cardi – This is really cute and soft…I don’t need another grey sweater though, so back it goes.
Mural Herringbone blazer – So torn on this (and it’s sold out). IF I worked outside the home I’d keep it in a heartbeat. It’s such a great color, love the herringbone, love the tailored but “cool” fit, and love the navy lining when I fold the sleeves. Plus, could wear it all year ’round. What to do? Update: Decided I have enough blazers given my casual life style. As sad as it makes me…back it goes…. Holding out for a really cool “statement blazer”.
Caslon Cowl neck Sweater Definitely keeping this baby. I’ve been looking for a cozy cream sweater since last year’s Winter Style System. I love this one…oversized, long slouchy sleeves, Love the neutral color that’s light and soft.
Free People Peplum Jacket This was the first thing I pulled the trigger on in the sale. It’s still available too. I do love it…but I’m on the fence whether I “need” it and can justify it. Thinking if I lived in a more mild climate I’d keep it in a heartbeat. It works really well with my casual lifestyle and is fun and different from any of my other jackets. Update: Having a hard time letting this one go….so versatile and so different at the same time. Hmmmmm.
Caslon U-Neck T-shirt My favorite tee is baaack, and on sale – too good not to stock up. I already own 2 of these tees in white (one is pretty ragged looking so I’ll retire it). I like to have 2 of these tops on-hand all year long. I also recommend the black, grey and navy/white or black/white stripe as essentials to stock up on at this great price ($17.50). They even come in petite! The neckline is open and flattering without being too low. Looks great with long and short necklaces. It has great shape without clinging. Can be worn out, tucked or half tucked. I wear the white with a nude bra with no problem.
Blondo Booties These are the booties I’m wearing in all the pics above…Got them last year and paid full price with NO regrets. They are on-sale now with stock available. They aren’t as fun as the perforated styles that I also love, but they are more practical (as you can wear them with socks in the winter). They are waterproof and I think as comfortable as sneakers; no joke. They are the perfect taupe/neutral color “mushroom suede”. I highly recommend this color over black.
The last link is the AG Jeans that I am still “sleeping on” – but think I’ll end up keeping. I’m wearing them in all the pics above. To justify the splurge, I’m making a deal with myself to clear out my jean collection and sell the ones I don’t wear regularly. I’ve had great luck selling on the Poshmark app. If you sign up, use my code HEANE and we’ll both get free money.
I hope this rundown has been helpful. If you’ve been disappointed with out of stock situations at the Nordstrom Sale, hang in there — they will be restocking. But remember, popular items will sell out quickly…so don’t snooze, lest you lose;)
Again, If you’re new to the Nordstrom Anniversary Sale, check out my live video about it here.
Finally, one important note. I think most of you know this, but in the interest of total transparency, I wanted to make it clear that my links are “affiliate links” so if you do purchase from them, I get a tiny commission. When I say tiny, I mean literally pennies. My business model is not based on affiliate commissions but rather on my paid programs and consulting work, but every bit does help, so thank you for using my links when you shop. Of course, you don’t pay a penny more to do so.
The Fall Style System has some new and special highlights:
Integration with the Fall Essentials from the past so you aren’t reinventing the wheel if you’ve been following my programs. I will be updating the list with new links and suggestions to fill in where you are missing items.
A new list of Fall Trends and Add-Ons. These are mostly optional, but they are on-trend additions to add new life to your Fall Essentials.
An emphasis on ACCESSORIES, with inexpensive and high-impact ways to freshen up your Fall Essentials.
Tips, guides, videos and special guests to help you “get B.Styled” in more areas of you life besides just clothing: make-up and beauty tips, hair tips, dressing your body tips, and even health and exercise tips! You deserve to look and feel your best from the inside out, so let’s all work to do that together in this wonderful, supportive group of like-minded women. Early access will include shopping catalogs so you can take advantage of the Nordstrom Sale and get started this summer. The Fall Outfit Formulas and daily emails will start right after Labor Day.In the meantime, get back to enjoying SUMMER, #justgetdressed….and no more talk of Fall for a little while;)
Just like we talked about how we aren’t going to say we “hate” our legs…same goes with those arms. Remember to say “cancel cancel” when start bashing yourself and your body parts.
That said, arms can be tough, and for many it’s the first place they put on weight or show lack of toning. But hot weather is here ladies, so let’s talk about ways to be comfortable and confident in summer clothes when you aren’t wild about baring your ARMS:
It’s nearly impossible to avoid bare arms in the summer, so here are some tip to make it easier:
TAN: Everything looks better with a tan, even less-than-toned arms. I love to get a professional spray tan occasionally – there is really no better way to get an air-brushed tan that is natural-looking.
To make a real or spray tan last, or to get gradual color, I use Jergen’s Gradual Tan. I slap some on when I get out of the shower a few times a week. No streaking, no blotching. Easy. Remember to wear sunscreen! People have also told me they love the Jergen’s gradual tan mousse and in-shower version.
STYLE: Look for tops that highlight the most flattering features of your upper body. For example, an Off the Shoulder top will highlight your shoulders and clavicle bones (in my opinion, the most beautiful part of a woman’s body). They often come with light long sleeves so your upper arms are covered but you are still showing some summer skin for a pretty, romantic look. This top from Target can be worn on or off the shoulder and has a fun summer vibe, while still giving arm coverage:
CUT: I’m NOT going to tell you to stop wearing short-sleeve tops, especially in the summer. But keep in mind that short and cap sleeves are actually LESS flattering to larger arms than sleeveless tops. When your sleeve ends at the widest part of your arm (or your pant leg ends at the widest part of your calf) you are drawing a horizontal line and emphasizing the width. On the other hand, a sleeveless top, especially one that cuts in at the shoulders similar to a halter or t-back style is extremely flattering, accenting those shoulders and clavicle bones that you know I love;)Check out this halter dress that will not only flatter your arms, but the pattern makes it very forgiving to a midsection as well:
3/4 LENGTH SLEEVES: The most universally flattering sleeves are 3/4 length. They are goldilocks sleeves…not too long, not too short; just right. They show your forearm and reveal some skin which has a naturally slimming effect too.
Finally, movement is the key to feeling better about your body, and your arms will respond to simple exercises. If you make a commitment to exercising your arms a few minutes a day, you will see results in a just a couple of weeks. Here’s an article with tips to get you started.Thanks for reading, and now go #justgetdressed.Cheers,
Week one of the Shopping Detox is in the books. How did you do?
I know that I for one, am finding this time around to be much more difficult than the detox I/we did back in February. Maybe it’s because I’m drawn to bright colors and there are so many fun, summer tops and dresses being advertised 24/7. I can’t go through my email inbox or social media feed without getting very, very weak and tempted.
Here are some tips to keep us strong during the next 21 days.
Just the other day I posted a white J.Crew skirt that was on sale, screaming my name, and making me lose my resolve. Despite some “enablers” (you know who you are, and you know I love you;) I was able to take advice from the group and make the best choice for me.
I ended up nixing the purchase and dug out a white skirt I almost forgot I owned. It was different, but still a white skirt and works just fine. The on-line therapy session I got from the post was FREE, and I saved myself a cool 50 bucks. Thank you, ladies.
2. As you go through your emails, DELETE the retail sale ads without even opening them. It’s like grocery shopping on an empty stomach. Don’t do it. Don’t open the email.
3. Go ahead and read your favorite fashion blogs, but don’t let yourself be tempted to buy things just because they look great on the blogger. Take the info and tips and apply them to YOUR wardrobe…what you already OWN.
4. Along the lines of #2, don’t go to the mall, or God forbid, Target or TJMaxx, when you’re feeling especially “vulnerable”. Stick to the dreaded grocery store and pharmacy and other stores that only sell things that keep you and your family alive.
5. Check out the private B.Styled #justgetdressed Facebook page for my #ShopYourCloset tips and tricks. Today’s tip was to take an item, like a top for example, that you think of as being “dressy” and wear it casually for a change. Why not? Unless it has to be dry cleaned, it doesn’t cost a dime to wear something you already own, right? (Another reason I tend to avoid dry clean-only items.)
6. Last but not least, if you see something that is on the list of WARDROBE ESSENTIALS that I provide with my Seasonal Style Systems, snap a pic of it and post it to the group and I’ll give you my honest opinion. IF it’s truly an Essential, and just right for you, I may give you a free pass;)
But in the meantime, stay strong and keep track of all the moola you’re saving that you can divert to some summer fun.
P.S. Need some personal help and don’t want to use the Facebook page? Feel free to drop me a note at firstname.lastname@example.org. I’m happy to help!
You know I hate the word “hate” when speaking about our bodies; I usually say “cancel cancel” when clients bash themselves and their body parts. But I’m also a realist and understand that we all have less-loved parts that we aren’t in a rush to have on display, even when the weather and temperature warrants it. This is the first part in my series on Summer Dressing Tips dedicated to common, “troublesome” body parts — starting with LEGS.
It’s nearly impossible to avoid bare legs in the summer, so here are some tip to make it easier:
TAN: Everything looks better with a tan, including veins, cellulite and scars. I love to get a professional spray tan occasionally – there is really no better way to get an air-brushed tan that is natural-looking. It’s quite a process (she literally sprays every inch of your body) and if you’re modest it can take a little getting used to, but the results are amazing.
To make a real or spray tan last, or to get gradual color, I use Jergen’s Gradual Tan. I slap some on when I get out of the shower a few times a week. No streaking, no blotching. Easy. Remember to wear sunscreen!
FIT: Finding shorts that fit and flatter can be at least as difficult as the dreaded jeans hunt. There can be lots of trial and error involved. So when you find “the pair” – grab them in white, a favorite color, and light tan or chambray. A fun pattern can look great too, but cover the basics first. My hands- down favorite sources for shorts are Old Navy and Target. My recommendation for length is going to vary by person, but as rule of thumb, mid-thigh is the most universally flattering length. A simple chino style like these usually works best and can be cuffed to get the right length. 5-7″ inseams are a good range to look for, keeping in mind that if your legs are shorter, you want to go shorter, not longer.
SHOES: I’m a firm believer in the power of neutral shoes for flattering your bare legs. If your shoes blend into your foot/leg, the visual line isn’t broken and your legs will appear longer. You’ll want to avoid ankle straps, and busy details too…the simpler the better when it comes to shoes that flatter your legs. If you’re trying to elongate your legs, save the lace ups, pompoms and embellished shoes (like this cool pair from Target!) for when you wear ankle pants and dresses. And flats are fine, but a little heel is definitely going to elongate and flatter your legs even more.
EASY SUMMER PANTS: If you firmly veto the wearing of shorts, that’s totally fine too. There are lots of options for sundresses, skirts and maxi dresses (a longer dress with a slit is lighter and airier on those hot summer days). My favorite shorts-alternative is what I call “easy summer pants.” These are pants that don’t stick or cling to our sweaty bods, like these:
My final tip is just a suggestion…I find that the more active I am, the better I feel about those body parts that bug me. Don’t strive for perfection, don’t beat yourself up — instead replace the negative self talk with activity, Take a walk with a friend, do some squats, go for a bike ride with your kids. Get moving, and #justgetdressed.Thanks for reading!
Many of us have spent lots of time on college tours recently. I’m not going to get into the insanity of the entire college selection process, I’ll let you experience and enjoy that on your own.
But before I talk about the important stuff like what to wear, I need to get one thing off my chest. Can admissions people please train their adorable, enthusiastic tour guides to replace the word “free” with the phrase “included with your tuition.” If one more perky tour guide exclaims with pride that things like printing, laundry and shuttle rides are FREE, I think my head may explode.
If you’re in this fun stage or approaching it, I highly recommend you visit and subscribe to the blog, Grown and Flown. It’s by far the best site for the most salient, and entertaining information and support for all things teen, college, and “empty-ing nest” related. Their tagline is “parenting never ends”.. Ain’t that the truth. www..grownandflown.com.
Now, on to the truly important topic here:
WHAT TO WEAR ON COLLEGE TOURS WITH YOUR 16-18 YEAR OLD (easily embarrassed) CHILD
DO plan on weather changes. Especially if you’re traveling, wear layers, bring an umbrella, and have a neutral jacket on hand. An olive cargo jacket is on trend without being trendy…and you’ll blend in with the scenery which is your goal. Another go-to is my all-time favorite denim jacket – it’s just cool enough without screaming “I’m 50 years old and want to look like a teenager.”
On that note: DON’T dress for fashion. Yes, you can be fashionable, but trust me, your kid doesn’t want you to draw undo attention to yourself. Despite the fact that you raised and nurtured this child for 18 years (and are footing the bill) it’s not about you. 😉
DON’T expect your almost adult child to carry their own sh*t. Seriously though, carry a light-weight tote to hold your sunglasses, umbrella, an extra layer — AND all the glossy hand out materials (that must cost these schools a fortune, and no one ever looks at again because it’s all available on-line).
DO bring a scarf to add some personality to your neutral look. Scarves serve multiple purposes including adding some warmth, keeping your head dry in unexpected downpours, and covering the stain created when you dump your coffee on yourself while driving to said tour.
DO enjoy this special time with your “child” as they are held captive with no easy escape plan. It can be a stressful time filled with conflict and tough decisions, but it can and should also be a wonderful chance for some rare one-on-one time.
Final Tip: Stuff a “free” cookie in your mouth when you feel tempted to express a preference for a particular school. Learn this phrase and repeat it over and over when you’re tempted to give your opinion: “What did YOU think?? At first you’ll be met with a blank stare or something meaningless like, “it was nice”. But eventually (we pray) they will figure it out and end up somewhere right for them. And then (we pray) they’ll get a job, and not live in the basement. For too long.
Have fun and #justgetdressed😉
If you are looking to simplify and improve your spring wardrobe, and make getting dressed easier and less irritating (and maybe even fun), then I invite you to check out my Spring Style System. The program launched in March and the daily outfit email and private Facebook group have ended, but all other materials – clickable shopping catalogs, capsule wardrobe lists and outfit formulas – are included at a discounted rate of $19 with code almostsummer.
Technically Spring is here…. or if you live in the Northeast – it’s going to be here…someday…. hopefully.Question: What are you going to do when the invites start rolling in for all those Spring events….weddings, confirmations, communions, bar mitzvahs, graduations, etc, etc???
Do you think “crap, what am I going to wear?”Or do you have a small but fabulous collection of dresses you can rely on?Having a dress on hand when the invite arrives, is, as my mom would say, “like money in the bank”.
A basic rule to remember when it comes to dresses is that it’s impossible very hard to find the perfect dress when you’re looking for it, especially under a time crunch. A better approach is first to weed out the dresses taking up space in your closet that you would never reach for, and give them a new home.
Next, alwayskeep an eye out for dresses you love, and when you see something, and it fits the following criteria, GRAB it.
B.Styled’s Criteria for Dress Buying (even if you don’t have an event — yet):
Impact: It jumps out at you at the store or on the website. Just like a piece of art, you’ll know it when you see it, and when you have that visceral reaction,get the credit card out.Trust me, you’ll thank me.
Fit and Flattery:The dress fits and flatters your figure today.And by today, I mean, now.Not your figure from last year,or the one you plan to have next year.Focus on the current, fabulous YOU and highlighting all your best assets.
Timelessness:Steer clear of trends that won’t make sense a month, let alone a year from now.Classic shapes, colors and patterns are the way to go.Know which shapes best suit your figure (I know a personal stylist who can help with that;) Styles like sheaths, shifts and fit & flares are never goingout of style.(Just google Jackie O or Audrey Hepburn.)Trendy looks such as one shoulder, cold shoulder or cut outs are fun and have their place, but these are not your “go-to’s”
.CLICK HERE for a shopping catalog of some of my favorite dresses in four common occasion categories.Note that many of the dresses will work for many types of events – the hallmark of great dress.
Party: When you’re going out and want to take it up a notch.
Graduation:I for one, have high School graduations this June and next, and these dresses work for that kind of daytime event.
Weddings: ‘Tis the season!
Easter, Communions, Baptisms.:And any other more “lady-like” type of occasions.
Casual:Everyday dresses that are comfortable and versatile and can be worn for many casual events.
I’ve also included some shoe suggestions.You’ll see a lot of neutral shoes here.Why? Because they will work with most dresses…So when you find a pair that you love and that your FEET like.. do not hesitate.Buy them.
Of course, I’m here to help if you need specific suggestions or help – just send me a note, or go fill out a new client profile.This allows you to start building your own virtual closet like this example. I have priced my services in a way to make personal styling, whether virtually or in person, accessible and non-intimidating. My clients find that they actually end up spending less, yet have more to wear, after working with me.Click here for info on my services, and to learn about my Spring Style System.
Happy St. Paddy’s Day! Today we are all little Irish and I wanted to share my favorite green picks. Green is a fun color to add to your wardrobe whether it be in a top or an accessory…Here are some ideas….Click HERE to shop the links!
Looking at these items makes me want it all…and I never thought I was a “green” person. What a fabulous color to add to your looks this SPRING!
Speaking of SPRING…How’s your wardrobe looking? Does it need some help? We are having a ball over in the Spring Style System group. I think everyone in the program would attest that its value is FAR greater than the cost. You’ll have easy access to my personal styling without haven’t to leave home, and build a fabulous, functional wardrobe, starting with what you already own.
I’m a huge fan of separates but let’s face it, some occasions and professions call for an actual, grown-up suit. It’s a good staple to have in your closet, at the ready (think: meetings, interviews, and even funerals).
Most offices and lifestyles don’t require a suit every day, so if you can get more fun and mileage out of your investment, all the better. Remember, my mantra…versatility!
I found this navy suit at Banana Republic (they’re having a sale right now too…code: BRFAMILY). It has tiny dots on it, so it’s updated and different, but can still be treated like a solid navy suit.
Let’s see how this closet workhorse can give you lots of different options – from business, to casual, to “chic In-between”. Maybe you already have a navy suit and you can use these ideas to breathe new life into it.
Wear it as a matching suit with a simple white shell and add a cool necklace and accessories. I love the idea of a splash of unexpected color in the shoe – shows personality and polish.
Create a chic look that can go dressy OR casual. This pattern shirt is cool with the dots, and the blush cardigan is a great “3rd piece” that ties it all together. Too warm for a sweater? This outfit stands on its own too.
Need help with your Spring Wardrobe? Join the B.Styled Spring Style System and we’ll get your closet and wardrobe in shape so you can look and feel great every day. Click HERE for more info about the program or watch my FB Live video below!
On that note, I had an idea for a new Facebook Live feature called B.Styled Quickies – a series of 1 minute live videos. I’ll be sharing easy tips and tricks, and in the process, I’ll learn how to get my point across in a minute or less 😉 You can catch them by going to my B.Styled Facebook page and following me. They’ll be starting next week and will usually air at noon EST.
The other thing going on over on Facebook is my free, private, #justgetdressed group. This is where members can ask questions, post outfit pictures (that no one else sees) get advice and share tips. CLICK HERE and ask to join. It’s a fantastic group of fun, supportive and all-around awesome women, and is a great source of help, support and laughs.
Now, back to my tips for keeping it simple and focusing on versatility:
KEEP IT SIMPLE:
This was last Friday when I had meetings during the day and went out with friends at night. Did I change my entire outfit? Nope. I changed into jeans and the same color top as the dress — everything else (including my favorite boots) stayed the same. I was out the door in 2 minutes. Don’t reinvent the wheel! Keep it simple!
2. Focus on VERSATILITY!
This sweater converts from a cowl neck to an off-the-shoulder and can be worn out, or with a half tuck. Versatile! My two-tone necklace features gold and silver and can be worn long or doubled up. Versatile! In the video, I also demonstrate the wonders of this amazing $48 crossbody bag that can be worn 4 ways. Click here to order from FlirtyFinds!
The next time you’re considering whether to buy something, ask yourself if it’s versatile. Don’t buy something because it “goes with (fill in the blank)”. And I don’t care if it’s on triple clearance either! Find pieces that can be styled in various ways and be paired with several things in your closet. Got it?