Have you ever tried Stitch Fix? It’s an innovative, fashion company that does some really neat things. Today I’m providing you with my (free;) alternative: B. FIXED by B.Styled.
Some of the downsides to Stitch Fix are:
The products can be expensive.
The pricing and discount structure encourages you to keep things you don’t need or love just to get the “discount”.
Many people end up returning most or all of their “Fixes” or keep a bunch of ‘stuff’ that doesn’t really make sense for their wardrobe.If you know me and my philosophy, you know these issues are deal breakers when trying to build a functional and fabulous wardrobe that makes sense. My goal is to help you do just that, while working within your budget and lifestyle.
Your B.Styled Thanksgiving B.Fixed
Whether your Thanksgiving celebration is Dressy, Casual or Cozy – here are three outfit formulas. No need to run/click to the stores to shop though (unless you really need to)! Instead, head to your closet and see if you have these or similar ESSENTIALS and have some fun putting together your perfect Thanksgiving look. Have questions or want advice? Join us in the free #justgetdressed private Facebook group and ask away!
Click HERE to access this B.FIXED by B.Styled Shopping Catalog.
I’ve created the B.Styled Seasonal Style Challenges to provide affordable and fun access to personal styling for anyone wanting help with their wardrobe.
The B.Styled Winter Style System is in the works, rolling out in time for the holidays. Click HERE to be notified when it launches.
The beauty of the Winter Style System is that it uses all of the key pieces from the Fall Style System so it truly allows you to shop your closet and builds on what own. If you didn’t do the Fall System, that’s fine too. You’ll have access to the Fall Essentials List and Catalog as well as all the new fun & festive Winter additions.
Here are some other benefits of the B.Styled Seasonal Style Systems:
You get a list, a plan, and 21 done-for-you outfits formulas so you know exactly HOW to style the items. This capsule’s outfits are categorized into four types of LOOKS: Casual Chic, Comfy Chic, Business Chic and Dressy Chic.
You shop your closet first, ideally finding many of the items in the capsule already hanging there. See the clothing you already own in a new light!
You decide where to shop, what to buy, and how much to spend, all while getting suggestions and links in various price points.
You pick the colors and cuts and that you like and that make the most sense for you.
You get access to personal styling support (from me!) through the included private Facebook group. Many would say that this is the most valuable part of the entire program. The support, encouragement and access to tips and ideas is invaluable!
Welcome to a new installment of ‘She Who Struggles’ a guest post collaboration with my friend and client, Karen Collins (know to many as the genius talent behind Bisousweet Confections). Click HERE to read the first ‘She Who Struggles’ post, where we get a hilarious look into Karen’s struggle to #justgetdressed for a 100th b-day party in NYC.
Karen’s latest struggle revolves the battle to find something to wear amongst the chaos that is her closet.
She Who Struggles stood in front of her closet, wearing nothing but panties & a bra. Looking over at the clock on her husband’s bureau, she felt the pressure of time. She had a party to go to, and couldn’t find anything to wear. The closet was overflowing with clothing, yet nothing felt pretty or right.
The Dance begins. Shirts are tried on and discarded on the bed. Pants are pulled on, peeled off and shimmied back on again. Ever so slowly, an outfit comes together. Flashes of fashion advice run through her mind: To necklace, or not. What about the scarf? Crap…which shoes? Hoops/studs/chandeliers? Out of time, She Who Struggles gives up and walks out into the world, uncomfortable in her own skin, hair wet, no make-up, feeling like a failure.
Determined to find a new way, She Who Struggles decides to follow her friend’s advice: It’s time to tackle the closet.
15 minutes a day. That’s all it will take to create a better way to just get dressed. There’s no reason not to try.
Follow along as She Who Struggles attempts to accept herself and her style in Operation Closet Cleanse.
If you’re like me, having too much “stuff” around can cause stress and crankiness, But for me it can be hard to get started with an organizing project. Just looking at this picture (of my very own, pre-cleanse closet) makes me tense.
Imagine having an organized closet filled only with items that fit the body you have today, work for your lifestyle –and make you feel confident, comfortable and put together.
No more opening your closet door and feeling stressed out and annoyed by how jammed packed and disorganized it is – yet still having “nothing to wear.”
This is my closet AFTER I followed my Closet Cleanse step-by-step process. I don’t pretend to be an organizing guru. However, I developed the B.Styled Closet Cleanse program after spending years helping other women get their wardrobes under control and filled ONLY with items they love, need and actually wear.
Over the years I’ve read books and signed up for organization challenges and programs. However, I’ve always found that what was missing was the real nitty gritty;
The detailed, step-by-step tasks to keep me focused and on-track, and not overwhelmed.
I loved the message and intent behind Marie Kondo’s The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up and her philosophy that every item needs to be touched, keeping only those that “spark joy”. What has kept me from implementing her program though is the thought of spending several consecutive days pulling every single thing out at one time.
I understand the benefit of this approach, but for me it was too overwhelming and became an excuse to delay getting started. .
I’ve broken the Closet Cleanse down into very clear, simple, and manageable tasks that can be accomplished in 15 minute blocks of time.
The program includes a printable checklist (and just enough bossy-ness;) to keep you on track.
You can choose to do several 15 minutes tasks at one time, or do them daily as your schedule permits. The program is designed so you don’t have to live in a state of total disarray during the process.
And although I had clothing closets in mind when I developed the cleanse, I have applied the process to other closets and areas of my home as well.
CLICK HERE for more details and to sign up. Included in the small fee is all the info you need:
A (very short & limited) list of simple, inexpensive supplies
Instructions for each step in the process
A printable step-by-step checklist
I won’t lie, the Cleanse is the hard part, but it gives you the freedom to move on to the next stage which is the FUN part…Building a wardrobe you love.
This is where the B.Styled STYLE SYSTEM come in….Once you’ve ruthlessly purged your closet and gotten rid of all the stuff you don’t wear and don’t love, you can start to rebuild your wardrobe into one you will love and makes you feel confident and comfortable.Here are some highlights of what the B.Styled STYLE SYSTEM can do for you:
Learn to shop with a purpose and gain confidence through easy “done for you” outfit formulas. It’s about changing your relationship with your clothes and through that, your relationship with yourself.
You can finally end the cycle of always having to buy more things, but finding you still don’t have what you really need or want.
The B.Styled STYLE SYSTEM give you everything need to shop smart and look stylish. You’ll know exactly what pieces you need to build a capsule wardrobe that works for most occasions, what the current trends are and how to choose things that fit your personal style and flatter your figure.
I provide the shopping list and show you exactly how to pair up the outfits. You pick the pieces and decide the budget. Most of our members shop their closets first.
My goal is to empower you to take risks and discover your own unique style. You’ll get all the tools you need to build a capsule wardrobe of flexible, functional pieces that you can pair up in multiple ways.
If you’re ready to rebuild your wardrobe and try new styles outside of your comfort zone, I’d love to have you join us.
The FALL STYLE SYSTEM is going on now. We’ve done one “round” of 21 outfit formulas, but because fall is really just kicking in now (and we’re having so much fun) we ‘re starting the cycle over again so you can jump in anytime!
You’ve heard the buzzword “athleisure” but did you know it has actually made it into the Merriam-Webster dictionary? Athleisure “refers to casual clothing—like yoga pants, sweat pants and hoodies—that are designed to be worn both for exercising and for doing (almost) everything else.”
So basically, it’s wearing sneakers and leggings and generally sporty clothes no matter if you’re headed to lunch, the office or anywhere in between.
Like it or not, athleisure is here to stay, but like anything else it can be taken too far and it can be easy to fall into a yoga pants 24/7 rut – the exact opposite of my #justgetdressed mantra.
So while there’s no doubt that atheisure-wear is extremely comfortable and can look surprisingly chic, it can also read as sloppy and a little too gym-like, depending on how you wear it.
Peach has completely nailed “elevated athleisure” and is a great source for a mix and match pieces that you can incorporate into your wardrobe. Email me at email@example.com if you’d like some specific recommendations.
Here are some tips to help you pull off the trend:
Stick to a neutral, monochromatic palette for the most clean and chic look. Grey, Black and white with accents of muted, sophisticated colors are a good bet.
Mix in your “real” clothes for a more elevated look. Add a jacket, blazer or cardigan to your leggings and tunic. Or wear a cozy, updated “sweatshirt” with your favorite boyfriend or skinny jeans.
Pay attention to your shoes! A cool, chic monochromatic athleisure look can be wrecked with the addition of neon, multi color running shoes. Grab a pair of updated sneakers in black, grey or another muted color. Check out brands like nike, adidas and vans. Post work-out, swap your sneaks for a pair of booties or flats.
My usual go-to in the Fall is jeans and sweaters, but there's something to be said for the "one and done" dress. This Sylvie dress by peach meets all my criteria for a winning "day dress":
It's great- looking (comes in this fun wine color and also classic charcoal grey)...And check out the cool tie detail that you can highlight in the front or tie in the back for a different look.
It's SO comfortable (made from the softest, french terry - like your favorite sweats but so much better.)
It doesn't cling or bind anywhere but has just enough shape to be flattering on many different body types.
It can be worn in either direction making the neckline a subtle scoop or a high neck with the scoop in the back.
IT HAS POCKETS! Need I say more? A dress with pockets = a good thing. And, the pockets are designed to work either way you wear the dress. So smaht.;)
Most importantly, it's uber-VERSATILE...Wear it to run errands with sneakers. Wear it to work with flats or boots. Wear it out for drinks with booties, and change it up completely with different jackets, vests, sweaters, wraps, scarves and accessories. In the winter, add tights and tall boots for another great look.
You can use these same formulas with any simple solid dress too...T-shirt dresses, shifts, fit and flares - find a dress that works for you in a versatile, color and have fun transforming it with your "3rd Pieces" and accessories!
You’re standing in your closet, staring at the jumbled mass of clothing called your wardrobe.
Running late, you grab the same old pants and top, throw them on, and leave the house feeling less than inspired about you how you look.
Yes, technically you’re “dressed,” but words like confident, pulled together, and stylish do NOT come to mind when you think about how you’re dressed.
Let’s face it,…not the ideal way to start your day, is it?
What if you could spend 5 MINUTES in your closet, #justgetdressed, and walk out into your day looking and feeling your best. Then you can STOP thinking about what you’re wearing, and instead focus on the important things in your life.
Maybe you’ll be more productive? Be in a better mood? Show up with more confidence?
My goal at B.Styled is to help you build a great wardrobe that expresses YOUR style and supports YOUR life. And when you #justgetdressed, it has a positive ripple effect on other areas of your life.
See the video below for 3 Steps to take to help you get dressed looking and feeling your personal best — in less than 5 minutes:
This must be the biggest year yet for hype surrounding the Nordstrom Anniversary Sale. If you’re new to this crazy phenomena…here’s a live video I made on the eve of Early Access for the sale. In a nutshell, yes, it’s a special sale, there are great deals to be had on BRAND NEW styles, but you need to keep you wits about you;)
That said, this sale is a great time to save if you’ve been thinking of investing in a pair of premium denim jeans. I’ve been lusting after a pair of (soon to be named) jeans, so when they popped up on the Early Access Sale (#NSALE), I decided to splurge. I figured I’d try them and if they didn’t live up to all the hype, I’d just return them; no harm no foul. Let me be clear….. these jeans are normally insanely expensive, and on the #NSALE they are only ridiculously expensive. But in the interest of Market Research (and free returns) I clicked BUY (I even ordered 2 sizes to make sure I got it right).
I got my first #NSALE shipment today, including the jeans. I tried them on with my favorite, basic white t-shirt (also on the sale and I ordered another one since I am so rough on them).
As soon as I put the jeans on, yes, I LOVED them, but something felt strangely….familiar. I went to my closet, and found a pair of budget-friendly jeans I own, tried them on, and decided to take side-by-side comparison photos.
The only thing I changed was my jewelry….gold vs. silver, just so I could keep the pictures straight.
So, you’re dying to know which jean is the spend and which is the splurge, right? Well just to complicate things, I ask my unsuspecting, work-from-home husband to look at them both in person and decide which was which. He, of all people, nailed it, noticing a clear difference, and thought the splurge pair looked considerably better. Go figure.
Both pairs are very stretchy and comfortable and with a slightly higher waist. However…
I admit I do really LOVE the AG’s and there are some features that make them stand out to me.
They have the on-trend raw hem, but if I get sick of that I can cuff them.
I love the color of the wash…it’s the perfect shade of denim for me…not too light, not too dark. They could be worn very casually with flops or wedges, or dressed up with heeled booties. The difference in color and fading is more obvious in person than in the pics. My husband noticed it immediately.
I admit I really love the small distressed detail at the hip. I’ve tried more distressed jeans but just don’t feel like myself in them, although I love how they look on others. These have just enough to make to me happy and feel slightly cool (which I’m not).
Another thing my husband noticed (being a man) is the rear view. I think AG has pocket placement down –making for more flattering hiney on the AG’s.
I’m going to hold on to them for now, and decide in September whether to keep them or send them back. They are available to order on sale now, but with a backorder date of November, which is a drag. But, if you think you want them, best to get them at the sale price and wait to receive them (you can always change your mind).
Here are some of the other #NSALE items I received this week. Unfortunately sizes are limited on some of them, but there’s a good chance of restocking on Friday July 21st when the sale is open to the public – and when all the Early Access returns start coming in. Here’s a link to my complete catalog of picks.
My Verdict and Links:
Leith Circle Cardi – Got it last year in charcoal – love that one. This new version is cut differently (slightly so) . I like it a lot but don’t love it as much. Update: Going to hold out for the barefoot dreams circle cardigan in cream and hope that comes back in stock. This one going back…
Caslon Hooded Cardi – This is really cute and soft…I don’t need another grey sweater though, so back it goes.
Mural Herringbone blazer – So torn on this (and it’s sold out). IF I worked outside the home I’d keep it in a heartbeat. It’s such a great color, love the herringbone, love the tailored but “cool” fit, and love the navy lining when I fold the sleeves. Plus, could wear it all year ’round. What to do? Update: Decided I have enough blazers given my casual life style. As sad as it makes me…back it goes…. Holding out for a really cool “statement blazer”.
Caslon Cowl neck Sweater Definitely keeping this baby. I’ve been looking for a cozy cream sweater since last year’s Winter Style System. I love this one…oversized, long slouchy sleeves, Love the neutral color that’s light and soft.
Free People Peplum Jacket This was the first thing I pulled the trigger on in the sale. It’s still available too. I do love it…but I’m on the fence whether I “need” it and can justify it. Thinking if I lived in a more mild climate I’d keep it in a heartbeat. It works really well with my casual lifestyle and is fun and different from any of my other jackets. Update: Having a hard time letting this one go….so versatile and so different at the same time. Hmmmmm.
Caslon U-Neck T-shirt My favorite tee is baaack, and on sale – too good not to stock up. I already own 2 of these tees in white (one is pretty ragged looking so I’ll retire it). I like to have 2 of these tops on-hand all year long. I also recommend the black, grey and navy/white or black/white stripe as essentials to stock up on at this great price ($17.50). They even come in petite! The neckline is open and flattering without being too low. Looks great with long and short necklaces. It has great shape without clinging. Can be worn out, tucked or half tucked. I wear the white with a nude bra with no problem.
Blondo Booties These are the booties I’m wearing in all the pics above…Got them last year and paid full price with NO regrets. They are on-sale now with stock available. They aren’t as fun as the perforated styles that I also love, but they are more practical (as you can wear them with socks in the winter). They are waterproof and I think as comfortable as sneakers; no joke. They are the perfect taupe/neutral color “mushroom suede”. I highly recommend this color over black.
The last link is the AG Jeans that I am still “sleeping on” – but think I’ll end up keeping. I’m wearing them in all the pics above. To justify the splurge, I’m making a deal with myself to clear out my jean collection and sell the ones I don’t wear regularly. I’ve had great luck selling on the Poshmark app. If you sign up, use my code HEANE and we’ll both get free money.
I hope this rundown has been helpful. If you’ve been disappointed with out of stock situations at the Nordstrom Sale, hang in there — they will be restocking. But remember, popular items will sell out quickly…so don’t snooze, lest you lose;)
Again, If you’re new to the Nordstrom Anniversary Sale, check out my live video about it here.
Finally, one important note. I think most of you know this, but in the interest of total transparency, I wanted to make it clear that my links are “affiliate links” so if you do purchase from them, I get a tiny commission. When I say tiny, I mean literally pennies. My business model is not based on affiliate commissions but rather on my paid programs and consulting work, but every bit does help, so thank you for using my links when you shop. Of course, you don’t pay a penny more to do so.
The Fall Style System has some new and special highlights:
Integration with the Fall Essentials from the past so you aren’t reinventing the wheel if you’ve been following my programs. I will be updating the list with new links and suggestions to fill in where you are missing items.
A new list of Fall Trends and Add-Ons. These are mostly optional, but they are on-trend additions to add new life to your Fall Essentials.
An emphasis on ACCESSORIES, with inexpensive and high-impact ways to freshen up your Fall Essentials.
Tips, guides, videos and special guests to help you “get B.Styled” in more areas of you life besides just clothing: make-up and beauty tips, hair tips, dressing your body tips, and even health and exercise tips! You deserve to look and feel your best from the inside out, so let’s all work to do that together in this wonderful, supportive group of like-minded women. Early access will include shopping catalogs so you can take advantage of the Nordstrom Sale and get started this summer. The Fall Outfit Formulas and daily emails will start right after Labor Day.In the meantime, get back to enjoying SUMMER, #justgetdressed….and no more talk of Fall for a little while;)
Just like we talked about how we aren’t going to say we “hate” our legs…same goes with those arms. Remember to say “cancel cancel” when start bashing yourself and your body parts.
That said, arms can be tough, and for many it’s the first place they put on weight or show lack of toning. But hot weather is here ladies, so let’s talk about ways to be comfortable and confident in summer clothes when you aren’t wild about baring your ARMS:
It’s nearly impossible to avoid bare arms in the summer, so here are some tip to make it easier:
TAN: Everything looks better with a tan, even less-than-toned arms. I love to get a professional spray tan occasionally – there is really no better way to get an air-brushed tan that is natural-looking.
To make a real or spray tan last, or to get gradual color, I use Jergen’s Gradual Tan. I slap some on when I get out of the shower a few times a week. No streaking, no blotching. Easy. Remember to wear sunscreen! People have also told me they love the Jergen’s gradual tan mousse and in-shower version.
STYLE: Look for tops that highlight the most flattering features of your upper body. For example, an Off the Shoulder top will highlight your shoulders and clavicle bones (in my opinion, the most beautiful part of a woman’s body). They often come with light long sleeves so your upper arms are covered but you are still showing some summer skin for a pretty, romantic look. This top from Target can be worn on or off the shoulder and has a fun summer vibe, while still giving arm coverage:
CUT: I’m NOT going to tell you to stop wearing short-sleeve tops, especially in the summer. But keep in mind that short and cap sleeves are actually LESS flattering to larger arms than sleeveless tops. When your sleeve ends at the widest part of your arm (or your pant leg ends at the widest part of your calf) you are drawing a horizontal line and emphasizing the width. On the other hand, a sleeveless top, especially one that cuts in at the shoulders similar to a halter or t-back style is extremely flattering, accenting those shoulders and clavicle bones that you know I love;)Check out this halter dress that will not only flatter your arms, but the pattern makes it very forgiving to a midsection as well:
3/4 LENGTH SLEEVES: The most universally flattering sleeves are 3/4 length. They are goldilocks sleeves…not too long, not too short; just right. They show your forearm and reveal some skin which has a naturally slimming effect too.
Finally, movement is the key to feeling better about your body, and your arms will respond to simple exercises. If you make a commitment to exercising your arms a few minutes a day, you will see results in a just a couple of weeks. Here’s an article with tips to get you started.Thanks for reading, and now go #justgetdressed.Cheers,
Week one of the Shopping Detox is in the books. How did you do?
I know that I for one, am finding this time around to be much more difficult than the detox I/we did back in February. Maybe it’s because I’m drawn to bright colors and there are so many fun, summer tops and dresses being advertised 24/7. I can’t go through my email inbox or social media feed without getting very, very weak and tempted.
Here are some tips to keep us strong during the next 21 days.
Just the other day I posted a white J.Crew skirt that was on sale, screaming my name, and making me lose my resolve. Despite some “enablers” (you know who you are, and you know I love you;) I was able to take advice from the group and make the best choice for me.
I ended up nixing the purchase and dug out a white skirt I almost forgot I owned. It was different, but still a white skirt and works just fine. The on-line therapy session I got from the post was FREE, and I saved myself a cool 50 bucks. Thank you, ladies.
2. As you go through your emails, DELETE the retail sale ads without even opening them. It’s like grocery shopping on an empty stomach. Don’t do it. Don’t open the email.
3. Go ahead and read your favorite fashion blogs, but don’t let yourself be tempted to buy things just because they look great on the blogger. Take the info and tips and apply them to YOUR wardrobe…what you already OWN.
4. Along the lines of #2, don’t go to the mall, or God forbid, Target or TJMaxx, when you’re feeling especially “vulnerable”. Stick to the dreaded grocery store and pharmacy and other stores that only sell things that keep you and your family alive.
5. Check out the private B.Styled #justgetdressed Facebook page for my #ShopYourCloset tips and tricks. Today’s tip was to take an item, like a top for example, that you think of as being “dressy” and wear it casually for a change. Why not? Unless it has to be dry cleaned, it doesn’t cost a dime to wear something you already own, right? (Another reason I tend to avoid dry clean-only items.)
6. Last but not least, if you see something that is on the list of WARDROBE ESSENTIALS that I provide with my Seasonal Style Systems, snap a pic of it and post it to the group and I’ll give you my honest opinion. IF it’s truly an Essential, and just right for you, I may give you a free pass;)
But in the meantime, stay strong and keep track of all the moola you’re saving that you can divert to some summer fun.
P.S. Need some personal help and don’t want to use the Facebook page? Feel free to drop me a note at firstname.lastname@example.org. I’m happy to help!
You know I hate the word “hate” when speaking about our bodies; I usually say “cancel cancel” when clients bash themselves and their body parts. But I’m also a realist and understand that we all have less-loved parts that we aren’t in a rush to have on display, even when the weather and temperature warrants it. This is the first part in my series on Summer Dressing Tips dedicated to common, “troublesome” body parts — starting with LEGS.
It’s nearly impossible to avoid bare legs in the summer, so here are some tip to make it easier:
TAN: Everything looks better with a tan, including veins, cellulite and scars. I love to get a professional spray tan occasionally – there is really no better way to get an air-brushed tan that is natural-looking. It’s quite a process (she literally sprays every inch of your body) and if you’re modest it can take a little getting used to, but the results are amazing.
To make a real or spray tan last, or to get gradual color, I use Jergen’s Gradual Tan. I slap some on when I get out of the shower a few times a week. No streaking, no blotching. Easy. Remember to wear sunscreen!
FIT: Finding shorts that fit and flatter can be at least as difficult as the dreaded jeans hunt. There can be lots of trial and error involved. So when you find “the pair” – grab them in white, a favorite color, and light tan or chambray. A fun pattern can look great too, but cover the basics first. My hands- down favorite sources for shorts are Old Navy and Target. My recommendation for length is going to vary by person, but as rule of thumb, mid-thigh is the most universally flattering length. A simple chino style like these usually works best and can be cuffed to get the right length. 5-7″ inseams are a good range to look for, keeping in mind that if your legs are shorter, you want to go shorter, not longer.
SHOES: I’m a firm believer in the power of neutral shoes for flattering your bare legs. If your shoes blend into your foot/leg, the visual line isn’t broken and your legs will appear longer. You’ll want to avoid ankle straps, and busy details too…the simpler the better when it comes to shoes that flatter your legs. If you’re trying to elongate your legs, save the lace ups, pompoms and embellished shoes (like this cool pair from Target!) for when you wear ankle pants and dresses. And flats are fine, but a little heel is definitely going to elongate and flatter your legs even more.
EASY SUMMER PANTS: If you firmly veto the wearing of shorts, that’s totally fine too. There are lots of options for sundresses, skirts and maxi dresses (a longer dress with a slit is lighter and airier on those hot summer days). My favorite shorts-alternative is what I call “easy summer pants.” These are pants that don’t stick or cling to our sweaty bods, like these:
My final tip is just a suggestion…I find that the more active I am, the better I feel about those body parts that bug me. Don’t strive for perfection, don’t beat yourself up — instead replace the negative self talk with activity, Take a walk with a friend, do some squats, go for a bike ride with your kids. Get moving, and #justgetdressed.Thanks for reading!