Many of us have spent a lot of time on college tours recently. I’m not going to get into the insanity of the entire college selection process, instead I highly recommend you read this article: “The Hair-Pulling Madness of the College Tour”.
But before I talk about what to wear, I need to get one thing off my chest. Can admissions people please train their adorable, enthusiastic tour guides to replace the word “free” with the phrase “included with your tution.” If one more perky tour guide exclaims with pride that things like printing, laundry and shuttle rides are FREE, I think my head may explode.
Now, let’s talk about the really important stuff:
WHAT TO WEAR ON COLLEGE TOURS WITH YOUR 16-18 YEAR OLD (easily embarrassed) BELOVED CHILD
- DO wear comfortable shoes. My go-to are my favorite Stan Smith sneakers. Neutral nike-type sneaks work too. Low heeled comfortable booties or your favorite neutral ballet flats are a good choice too.
- DO plan on weather changes. Especially if you’re traveling…wear layers, bring an umbrella, and have a neutral jacket on hand – denim, black, olive, white, tan, grey always work.
- DON’T dress for fashion. Yes, you can be fashionable, but trust me, your kid doesn’t want you to draw undo attention to yourself. Despite the fact that you raised and nurtured this child for 18 years, and are footing the bill, it’s not about you:)
- DON’T expect your almost- adult child to carry their own sh%t. Seriously though, carry a light- weight tote to hold your sunglasses, umbrella, an extra layer — AND all the hand out materials (that must cost these schools a fortune, and no one ever looks at again because it’s all available on-line).
- DO bring a scarf to add some personality to your neutral look. Scarves serve multiple purposes including adding some warmth, keeping your head dry in unexpected downpours, and covering the stain created when you dump your coffee on yourself while driving to said tour.
- DO enjoy this special time with your “child” as they are held captive with no easy escape plan. It can be a stressful time filled with conflict and tough decisions, but it can and should also be a wonderful chance for some rare one-on-one time.
- Final Tip: Stuff a “free” cookie in you mouth when you feel tempted to express a preference for a particular school. Learn this phrase and repeat it over and over when you’re tempted to give your opinion: “What did YOU think?? At first you’ll be met with a blank stare or something meaningless like, “it was nice”. But eventually (we pray) they will figure it out end up somewhere right for them. And then (we pray) they’ll get a job, and not live in the basement. For too long. There’s that too.
Have fun and #justgetdressed;)